‘’Addiction is a relationship - and like any toxic relationship, there eventually has to come a time you both have to break up. The healthy and respectful thing to do, considering you both have history? Sit down, be honest with one another, and come to a mutual understanding before you separate on good terms.’’
Understanding all that Funny Business.
Cocaine is one hell of a drug.
One massive line up each nostril, whack on some porn - lads are in “heaven.”
“Living the dream.”
The Reality?
Addiction isn’t funny business.
It’s serious.
What might have been harmless fun at the start… something that felt good…
Now?
It’s hell.
The problem.
Most lads think they “have a drug problem.”
And although that’s true, what they actually have is a lot more complicated than that.
Underneath the surface.
What’s really going on?
There is an area in your brain responsible for decision-making, emotional regulation, and self-control - and it shuts down as a result of overstimulation from coke, porn, or especially both.
Now you know why you ain’t been able to help yourself - and do yourself no favours…
The logical part of your brain goes “offline,” and the impulsive, reward-seeking part switches on.
One way to look at it?
You’re not as conscious as you think you are - you’re not fully there.
What That Looks Like
You know you can’t live this way - yet still do.
You are determined to stop, but can’t help yourself.
You can talk sense after the fact, but in the moment, lose sense of self.
You ignore consequences even though you know better.
Low impulse control.
Low self-esteem.
Trouble delaying gratification.
Preference for quick fixes & instant gratification.
Prioritising convenience.
No interest in long-term thinking.
And worst of all - you do your own head in, cause you constantly let yourself down.
What To Do?
Practically, you need stability and peace of mind.
It’s therefore advised that you seek support and start making time for yourself. Once a week, for example, for one hour - that’s yours. A place to breathe, reflect, and address that funny business.
For Your relfection.
Step back and take a bird’s-eye view of your life - not just to see it for what it really is, but to ask yourself: at what cost?
Ask honestly: “If I don’t bother doing something about it now, what do I risk losing?”
Then decide what kind of life you actually want - what that looks like, why that matters to you - and go for it.
What Will Actually Help.
Structure, accountability, sustained support, and one honest day at a time.
The Motto
Recovery isn’t just about quitting the substance or the lifestyle that comes with it.
It’s about building a life you can live without it.
A life where you can enjoy yourself without the crutch - because you’ve remembered there is so much more to life.
Why work with Antonio?
Behavioural understanding - knowing why you go from A to B, and how to outgrow it.
Emotional Inteligence -I will help you hold the weight of where you’re at and won’t let you fall apart.
Accountability & companionship - no more excuses, no more secrecy - instead one honest day at a time, with support.
Energy redirection - steering what once destroyed you into what now drives you.
📈The Faqs
Q: Why do men often mix cocaine/meth and porn/sexual behaviour?
A: Both trigger large dopamine surges. Together they amplify the reward system - pleasure. Both coke & meth induce a huge influx of euphoria, which results in hyper sexuality. Porn or other sexual behaviour is then used to satisfy that feeling. AddictionHelp.com+2AddictionHelp.com+2
Q: Can I recover without therapy?
A: Clinical help is encouraged. However, many men find that working with a guide, a mentor or a coach as beneficial, if not more helpful, because a recovery/sobriety or life coach in general, not only has the knowledge or the expertise, but the ability to relate with their client, as a consequence of lived experience. You
Q: Is porn not healthy?
A: Not only is it unhealthy, its a massive problem!
Q: Why is porn a massive problem?
A: I would have to write a whole article on that to be honest. the biggest threat is that it compromises our values, warps our worldview and corrupts our minds.
Q: How do I know if I’m addicted to porn?
A: Addiction in short - is a mood changer. If you watch porn whenever you’re in the mood, or to self sooth and change your mood to experience relief- You are addicted. Everyday use is also considered as a behavioural addiction.
Q: How do I quit? I am addicted to porn.
A: The first step is that level of understanding, acknowledging you have an addiction. The next step is to seek to understand it. Once you understand it, the result leads to clarity. The natural next step is to then focus on what needs to be done about it, and how to go about it. Contact me, I can help with that.
Q: If I enjoy coke-fueled porn binges, recognise its now a problem & need to do something about it, do I have to stop watching porn?
A: Without question. Nothing will change if you don’t. See it as feeding the very lifestyle you’re trying to avoid.
Q: How do I know if working with you will help?
A: You're determined to stop.fice for National Statistics
Q: Is cocaine addiction/meth addiction an issue?
A: The issue is that the volume in numbers are growing faster than population growth, and not showing any signs of slowing down. That’s a huge problem! Specially considering those individuals often struggle with serious health, legal, social issues, that effects their families and communities too
Q: Why should men stop watching porn as part of addiction recovery from coke or meth?
A: If coke has been used as a tool and an excuse for prolonged & intensified funny business. Its only otherwise feeding the very lifestyle you’re trying to avoid.
To be continued….