📈The Faqs

Q: Do I have a cocaine and porn addiction?:

Both. And they feed off each other.

Coke is the permission slip to go at it for all sorts of hours “enjoying yourself”.

Porn is the fuel.

Masturbation is what makes all that funny business from even being possible.

Why - if you’re serious about turning your life around, you have to stop feeding the very lifestyle you’re trying to avoid,

• Undermining yourself.

• Acting out even though you know it’s not a good idea.

• Having no self-control, especially when life feels difficult.

Q: Why are you so strict about ‘‘no masturbation’’?

Because for you, masturbation isn’t just ‘‘relief’’ - it’s training ground.

It rehearses the exact pattern cocaine addiction runs on: urge - obey.

If you keep training obedience, it’s no wonder why you keep folding to that voice, that say’s ‘‘fuck it.’’

Q: What if I quit cocaine but keep porn / wanking?

Then you will still have a loaded gun on the table.

Porn + wanking - triggers - this feels better when I’m high.

Sooner or later you will; ‘‘justify’’ coke again, and end up right back in a spiral, because your standards dropped first.

Q: Why encourage semen retention? Sounds extreme.

Extreme is getting wrecked every opportunity you get.

Extreme is disappearing into porn for hours.

Extreme is risking your health, relationships, money, and self-respect.

Retention isn’t extreme.

It’s a reset.

A recalibration.

A re-alignment.

It’s you proving you can sit with an urge, not compromise.

That’s self-leadership - not self-punishment.

And it keeps you well clear away from the very lifestyle you’re trying to avoid.

Q: I’m in a relationship. I can’t ‘‘retain’’ forever. How’s it apply to me?

You don’t need forever: You need proof and patter interruption.

Here’s the rule:

• No porn. No wanking.

• If sex happens, it happens - but don’t use sex like your life depends on it.

If your relationship is hanging by a thread, do this:
Try one week.
Tell your partner: “WHY.”

That one-week reset does two things:

1. It makes it easier for you long run to go without wanking.

2. It builds trust faster because you’re not talking - you’re acting.

3. It sets the terms you way.

This makes you feel powerful and gives you a confidence boost.

Interesting fact:

Intentionally going without sex now and again can be really beautiful gift for a relationship when you’re healing. It brings patience back. Presence back. Respect back. You stop chasing quick relief and start building something much more meaningful..

Intimacy comes in many forms - not only by sex, or physically…

Q: Does this mean I can never enjoy sex again?

Absolutely not. This isn’t anti-sex. It’s anti-compulsion.
Sex with intention is far different from impulsivity.

Q: What if I relapse?

Tell the truth - Be honest.

Don’t shame yourself.

That’s why working with me would benefit you. Time to yourself, to hit the breaks, pause, reflect, address, and process what’s going on - helps, a lot…

Q: Is what I do on drugs “normal”?

Normal? No - addiction isn’t healthy.
Common? Very. Cocaine and Meth is well known to cause hypersexuality.

Q: I don’t binge often. Is it still a problem?

Frequency doesn’t matter. Impact does.
At the end of the day, lighting up a fire once a month can still burn the house down.

Q: Why can’t I stop even though I want to?

Because you’re not battling logic - you’re battling a trained reflex.
The “fuck it” voice is automatic because you’ve rehearsed giving in for years.
Our job is to slow the moment down, rebuild self-control and improve your own relationship - with yourself.

Q: How is this different from everything else?

Most recovery focuses on the substance or the behaviour.
I focus on your relationship with it - and the part of you that keeps choosing “fuck it.”
We kill the loop, address all that funny business, and make your decision to stop actually mean something.

Q: How do I know this will work for me?

Honestly?

If you’re ready to grow the fuck up, with all due respect.

Q: What do I do to start today?

Simple:

1. No porn.

2. No masturbation.

3. Retention (as a discipline tool).

4. Be honest, that one honest move, is worth more than a thousand promises!

Q: Is this confidential?

Yes. What you tell me stays between us.
I’m not here to judge you, label you, or shame you - I’m here to help out and be there for you.
If you’re afraid of opening up, that’s normal. But trust me, there is nothing you could say to me I haven’t most likely done worse.…. Bring it on.

Q: What happens when I click “Get in touch”?

I will respond, and we can look forward to scheduling a call.

Q: Do I need rehab, cocaine anonymous, therapy or can I do this on it’s own, just with you?

Some lads could do with time off to be fair. Rehab helps.
The real question is: Are you going round in roundabouts or taking action - getting help.

If you’re bingeing hard, spiralling, or your life is on the edge - all the support in the world, 100% helps!
If you’re functional, same old shit, One honest day at a time, 1 on 1 - working with me - is a gamechanger.