‘‘Addiction isn’t just chemical - it’s emotional, spiritual, and behavioural. For many men, the wrestle isn’t with the substance or the behaviour, but in the pattern that drives it.’’

Understanding CSLFBD - Co-Occurring Substance and Lust-Fuelled Behaviour Disorder

When addiction meets desire, something deeper takes over.

For many men, the battle isn’t just with drugs or lust alone - it’s the way the two feed off each other. This piece explores how substance use and sexual compulsion intertwine, why willpower alone often isn’t enough, and how genuine recovery starts from honesty, structure, and support.

Co-Occurring Substance and Lust-Fuelled Behaviour Disorder (CSLFBD)

Co-Occurring Substance and Lust-Fuelled Behaviour Disorder is when substance use and sexual compulsion feed off each other.

A man might use cocaine or meth with the intention to act out sexually. The euphoria from the high then reinforces the drug use.

Why Do Men Suffer With This Problem?

Many men struggle because using both drugs and lust together feels like experiencing novelty on supercharge - what’s known as a supernormal stimulus.

What Is Supernormal Stimulus?

A supernormal stimulus exaggerates how you’re stimulated compared to how you would be by natural stimuli.

What Is a Stimulus?

A stimulus is anything that stimulates us, such as:

1. Sexual expression and desire (lust)

2. Love

3. Ambition, greed, or pride

4. Music

5. Friendship, family, and community

6. Empathy

7. Auto-suggestion

8. Fear

9. Vices

The Six Common Themes as a Result of CSLFBD

1. Trigger - boredom, stress, rejection, disconnection, the disorder itself.

2. Substance - cocaine as a substitute for relief

3. Behaviour - hypersexuality

4. Crash - emotional and mental burnout, including fatigue

5. Shame - isolation, secrecy, self-loathing

6. Rationalisation - “fuck it.”

Hypofrontality - What’s Really Going On in the Brain?

Hypofrontality describes reduced activity in the brain’s prefrontal cortex - the area responsible for decision-making, critical thinking, emotional regulation, and self-control.

When someone is in a hypofrontal state, the logical part of the brain goes “offline” due to overstimulation, allowing the more impulsive, reward-seeking parts (like the limbic system) to take over.

One way to look at it, the brain’s pilot - the prefrontal cortex - falls asleep at the wheel while the disorder takes the driver’s seat.

What It Looks Like

• You are determined to stop, but can’t help yourself.

• You can talk sense after the fact, but in the moment, lose sense of self.

• You ignore consequences even though you know better.

• Low impulse control.

• Low self-esteem.

• Trouble delaying gratification.

• Preference for quick fixes.

• Prioritising convenience.

• No interest in long-term thinking.

• And the worst of all - feeling uncomfortable in your own skin.

Breaking the Loop - What’s the Available Treatment?

After what’s already been explained, it should now be clear why willpower alone is not enough.

You don’t fight against the loop or conditioning - you take it one honest day at a time and outgrow it. That’s all you need.

How?

With structure, accountability, sustained support, and alignment - as outlined below:

1. Awareness – Spot the loop, name it, own it without shame, and break down denial.

2. Interruption – Remember why you’re taking it one honest day at a time.

3. Regulation – Self-soothe with acknowledgment and compassion.

4. Retention & Redirection – Abstain from porn and, if possible, practice semen retention.

5. Reconnection – Let others in. Don’t fake it. Take better care of yourself and commit to one productive movement every day, like push-ups - even if you’re not in the mood.

6. Integration – Your experience of being alive becomes a priority. You feel safe, grounded, and optimistic.

What Works (Backed by Science & Experience)

The most effective recovery systems for men address their fundamental needs.

The method behind U-volve combines:

• Behavioural understanding - knowing what makes you go from A to Z and why.

• Emotional wellbeing - developing emotional intelligence.

• Accountability & companionship - replacing secrecy with support.

• Energy redirection - shifting your perspective.

The U-Volve Approach

I created the CSLFBD Manual to give men a map - not just out of addiction, but back to their hearts.

It’s a structured, step-by-step process built on what works, for the best results possible.

It’s not therapy - it’s the training ground for a happier, more fulfilling, and joyful life.

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